Whilst growing up is completely optional, growing old isn’t, and it isn’t much fun either. It isn’t much fun for the person and it isn’t much fun for the family either, especially when you know they need a little assistance, a little care, a little help.
Perhaps they need a tad of help around the house, such as getting up the stairs or in and out of the bath. Maybe they have gotten to that point where driving is no longer a safe thing for them to do. Or maybe it is becoming increasingly hard for them to afford the running costs of their family home. All of these are challenges that you have to help them overcome, but it won’t be easy.
So to help you through this process – and help you overcome their objections – here are some strategies that may make the idea of them having help a little easier to accept.
Start As Early As You Can
In an ideal world, we would all sit down as a family and get this conversation out of the way before health reasons force our hand. So try and live in this ideal world. Ask them about their future, where they see themselves settling and how they feel about a little bit of help, such as getting a cleaner, or someone to drive them to the shops each week, or anything else.
Patience Is A Virtue
When you ask a question, make sure you allow your parents the time to answer. Patience is going to become your best friend, as is the tactics you use when asking the question. The worst thing you can do is put words into their mouths. Instead, ask open questions. Persevere. It could take a few attempts but you’ll eventually reach a decision that they made, that they had control over.
Find The Root of The Resistance
A lot of the time this scenario becomes easier when you get to the root of their resistance because, once they have accepted it, you can all move forward and find a solution. It could be that they are concerned about the privacy they’ll get at the local care home, in which case you could explore a Riddle Village LifeCare Facility Room as a solution. It could be the cost, in which case you can all come together to figure out a suitable budget and go from there. It could be the sense of them losing their independence, in which case you can figure out a way to minimize this feeling, giving them control of who and when comes into help.
Give Them The Control
This may seem like an odd suggestion because things will never get done, decisions will never be made and the resistance will continue. But not if you offer them options. Include them in the decisions, let them sit in on any discussions you have with potential care providers, let them take control of the days and times a carer will visit, or let them pick which care home they like the look of, and which accommodation they prefer. The more control they have the more willing they will be.